“When nothing is sure, anything is possible” Margaret Drabble
I love this quote and I use it often. I love it because there was a time that I had to “know” what was next for me and my loved ones. Since, I couldn’t know, I leaned into worst case scenarios or magical thinking about the unknowns.
I had to know because it meant that I could be in control of life, and I could avoid whatever I was feeling by thinking about the future or using the past as a guide.
I thought if I knew and could come up with a way to fix or prep my life and my loves one’s life, we would be safe and wouldn’t suffer. It makes no sense, but I believed my suffering (worrying, avoiding, and controlling) could somehow protect and perfect my life from pain.
For many years this felt safe but as I continued doing my inner work, being in control of life began to feel like dying a slow and painful death.
Here is the hard truth,
CONTROL IS AN AVOIDANCE TECHNIQUE THAT HARMS YOU. YOUR METHODS OF CONTROL ARE HURTING YOU + COSTING YOU THIS VERY PRECIOUS LIFE.
Methods of control include, perfectionism, worry, numbing (excessive shopping, drugs, alcohol), building walls topped with razor wire, keeping busy and rushing about, future, or past obsession, the list goes on and on.
These are all ways we avoid uncomfortable emotions and stay stuck in a cycle of suffering. This was not a life I wanted to live anymore. However, I couldn’t move passed it until I learned the transformative power of processing both my emotions and thoughts without identifying with them.
In other words, I used to believe I would drown in my tears. The negative thoughts and emotions had the power over me until I realized I could free myself from these chains. I didn’t do it alone; I did with the love and support of others, and you do not need to do it alone either.
This is the work that changed my life and the work my clients do when they sign up, when we let go of being so sure about life, we realize, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
There is more to you, there is more to life, there is more for you here! You already know this. The possibilities are endless and all you need is one small step at a time. Whether that is signing up for a free connection call with me or sitting in nature for 10-minutes a day.
Connection calls are free and have no strings attached. People tell me that these calls are life changing because they feel seen, heard, and begin to understand the root causes and confusion keeping them stuck. There is nothing to lose and a lot to gain from taking this small step.
UNLIMITED Love + Light,
Orly
